Rewriting My Happily Ever After by Dr. Ranjani Rao
Divorce is a word that conjures the image of two individuals baring their fangs at each other. Ugly with custody battle if there is a child involved; we have heard stories of quite a bit of mud-slinging and “he said..she said,” scenarios.
‘Like a child building a brand new toy with a heap of Lego blocks, I reassembled the useful pieces from the debris of my old life with patience, persistence, and a strong belief that a better life was possible. In doing so, I was able to reveal a new avatar of myself,’ I couldn’t but cheer the woman who emerged from the experience of a soured marriage but did not allow the experience to sour her life. There had been lots of factors that had helped her in this journey of hers, but what remained with me besides not accepting the words of another as her own personal truth, were her words when she goes an extra mile to help her colleague, ‘I had put aside my burden at least for a moment. I had seen another’s pain. And that had made all the difference.’ She further adds a quote from Paulo Coelho to drive home the point, You drown not by falling into a river but by staying submerged in it.
The honesty with which she had penned the memoir was a revelation by itself. It is also reflective of most of us when we are handling difficult situations in our own life. At one point, she ruminates, ‘I had lost the anonymity that comes with conformity. It was humbling to realize that I was being myopic and as judgemental as everyone I liked to accuse. It was me who had labeled my situation as being non-conforming and therefore an object of curiosity.’ At another juncture, she says, ‘Like an intermission during a long movie, I was waiting for my “real” life to resume. I had never penciled in such a detour in any list I had made for my life. ‘